Introduction

As I was writing an email to a friend addressing a common issue she was having with her husband, it brought to mind the same conversation I had with a different girlfriend over the phone a few days prior. "My husband never listens to me." I told them both the same thing when it came to mind how much I learned living with two men.

I am a single girl, 31 years old, and I've recently had a drastic change happen in my life. I divorced my gay husband and his boyfriend. They moved out of my house in March of 2007, but we've remained close until a few months ago, as their lives have changed. He helped me feel comfortable with who I am. He was loving and caring and affectionate. He helped me start a new life on my own. He was the beginning of a new chapter in my life.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. I don't remember how long ago I heard this saying or whom said it, but it stuck. I started to reflect on what these men have taught me while being in my life. While we lived together, the gay husband a little over 2 years and the boyfriend roughly a year and a half, I would always tell them they were preparing me for marriage and kids. And while I'm nowhere near close to being married or having children, I'm able to help my girlfriends with their problems.

These men may be gay, but they are not your stereotypical gay men. They are men's men. If you saw them on the street, worked with them or just had a random conversation with them you would never guess they were gay. When I told my mom he was moving in with me she thought it was great because gay men are clean. HA! I learned that is not always true. So what you read here will be the lessons I've learned about men and how their brain works. I hope it's helpful and you enjoy reading. Please feel free to comment or share your lessons.